If you’re anything like me, the thought of being content during your singlehood may seem like a foreign language to you…You just DON’T understand how contentment and singleness can go together…
Thankfully, I finally got fed up with always being miserable while I sat around waiting for “Mr. Right” to walk past me! I decided to do some research and buy some books.
Thus starting me on the path of finding out the answer to the question: Why is Contentment During Singlehood Important?
“It’s easy to think “If I surrender this desire to Christ, He will Eventually give it back to me. If I stay pure, then surely He will write a beautiful earthly love story for me and all my dreams will come true.” But that’s not real surrender. When I laid down my dreams and desires at the feet of Jesus, I knew I could not hold on to any expectations. I didn’t have the assurance that one day He would write a beautiful love story for me. I couldn’t assume that an earthly prince was waiting in the wings for me. Rather, I was to expect to be single-and to become fully content with singleness-unless at some point God made it clear that he had a different plan for me.” -Leslie Ludy, Sacred Singleness, Pgs. 29-30
Leslie sums up so perfectly why contentedness is so important for us Christian girls-and guys!
As much as we’d like to think “there’s someone out there for me!” there is nowhere in the Bible that we’re given a guarantee that there’s someone out there for each and every single one of us.
“But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone…” Matthew 19:11 (The Message)
Jesus himself said that married life isn’t for everyone. So, why would we wait around waiting for something that might not come when we could be out doing kingdom work?
Yesterday, I got to taste the sweetness of being perfectly content in being a single woman who has the freedom to go out and take young ladies from my church out for a photo shoot! On my way to pick her up, out of nowhere, I thought to myself “so this is what content singleness feels like!”
That’s when it really clicked in my heart what feeling content with singleness is. It’s being full of joy that you get to give of your time FREELY to the younger girls in your church, it’s volunteering to go out and drive a few meals to some of the elderly people in your community for your community meals-on-wheels program. It’s getting to go to house concerts at your pastor’s house and volunteering at your food bank or homeless shelter. Contented singleness is getting to GIVE yourself FREELY to the work of God!
You don’t have the restrictions that come with married life! It’s packing up at the last-minute and going with your best gal-friends to the beach for a weekend camping trip!
So, this is my challenge to you tonight; First, I challenge you to read the book by Leslie Ludy I quoted (You WON’T regret it!)
Second; go and do something that you’ve always felt led to do (It can be as big as going on a missions trip with your church, or as small as buying a cup of coffee for someone). Find something that will create such a contentedness in your heart and spirit, that it makes you lose focus of that “WHEN is my prince going to come???” feeling! I guarantee, you’ll be SO glad you did!!