“February 14th. Some call it Valentines Day, others call it Singles Awareness day. A day you either hate, or love. It’s a day where the couples celebrate their love and singles cry over their lack thereof…”
That’s how I started my Valentines Day post last year. With a lot of anger and resentment and bitterness towards being single.
So, this year I decided to do something…Something about Doing Valentines Single…
Okay. Before I go on, no, I didn’t take my singleness by the horns and go ask a guy out…That hasn’t ever worked out well or me…
What I DID do, was go on a date…with myself…
I got all Dressed up; dress, makeup, hair done up and yes, even high heeled shoes.
In mid-January, when all the stores started getting their Valentines displays out, I decided that I wasn’t going to do Valentines with the same angry, bitter attitude I have had every year. So, I decided instead of sitting at home crying my “woe is me” song and waiting my knight in shining armor to finally take me out for Valentines day, I was going to go out, have fun and do something I really wanted to do. Which just happened to be going to Pizza Hut.
Making this decision about my attitude towards Valentines Day as a single made me realize something; everything is dependent upon your attitude. If you make up your mind that you are going to have a good day, no matter what is going on around you-and you keep reminding yourself of that decision, you will!
Ladies, here’s what I want you to take away from this. We have to learn not only to accept the current season of life we are in (whatever that might be) but we need to learn to embrace the season of life each of us are currently in. God has us where he wants us for a reason.
Whether God is using this time to mold you and teaching you a crucial lesson for the next season he has in store, or if you’re a mother raising a houseful of beautiful children who will be world changers, or maybe-like me-you’re a single college (aged) gal who has the wondrous gift of freedom; freedom to minister and take part in ministry as you please, to go out and be intentional about building life-long relationships and learn about yourself; God has you where you are for a reason!
“He said to them, “It is not for you to know times or seasons that the Father has fixed by his own authority.” Acts 1:7
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven,” Ecclesiastes 3:1
Remember, God knows what he’s doing, even when we don’t. Trust him, and-as crazy as it might sound-embrace the unknown. Embrace the fact that God is doing something and that it will all become clear one day. In the meantime, take one day at a time. Don’t get ahead of yourself, as those are the moments when worry, confusion, anxiety and frustration creep in and we begin to doubt God.
I hope you all had a beyond wonderful Valentines Day-you all deserve it!