The Heart of Modesty: Modesty in Action

Modesty in Action

And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do.”          1 Timothy 2:9-10

At the end of the first post for this series, we read proverbs 4:23; that everything we do comes from what is in our hearts.

That means how we act is directly caused by the state our heart is in.

Let me give you an example:

I’m one of those people who tends to hold onto the bad things people do to or say about me. I let my heart become so full of anger, bitterness and resentment and, because of it, I end up treating people those same things that I’ve let into my heart-whether I mean to or not.

It’s like a cup…the more you fill it, the fuller it becomes and inevitably, if you keep pouring into it, whatever you’re pouring will begin to overflow out of it.

Have you ever seen someone go out of their way to get attention by acting out? Maybe their being overly loud, making exaggerated gestures or movements with their hands or body? Or, maybe they had an emotional outburst that drew more than a little attention to themself?

All of these things are caused by what is in a person’s heart.

Don’t get me wrong, emotions are a wonderful, God-given gift! Emotions are what lead us to take action and have sympathy and care about others.

But, emotions gone unchecked-whether happy or sad- can end up leading us down sinful paths that lead to hurt and ruin.

-Emotions gone unchecked,

Remember the questionnaire I wrote about in Part 1 of the series?

One of the things I asked those who took part is “What does a Modest Woman look like to you?”  

Here are a couple of answers that I received that so perfectly agree with what this article is saying:

  1. “I think modesty had a lot of different aspects or meanings, it includes how she acts as well as dresses. But a truly modest woman will act modest and dress… Ultimately, its more than physical appearance, but a truly modest woman will recognize the need to dress modestly as well. To me a modest woman is very balanced emotionally, does not demand attention from others, in any way, and is quietly confident in herself and strong.”

  2. “To me a modest woman still has a sense of mystery to her. She doesn’t throw her emotions around for everyone to hear and see. She doesn’t get acceptance by having to have the spotlight…”

A couple of weeks ago, I was reading in my Bible and read about a man who had invited Jesus over for lunch and Jesus sat and watched everyone try to sit in the seat of honor. 

This was Jesus’ response;

“When you put on a luncheon or a banquet,” he said, “don’t invite your friends, brothers, relatives, and rich neighbors. For they will invite you back, and that will be your only reward. Instead, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. Then at the resurrection of the righteous, God will reward you for inviting those who could not repay you.” Luke 14:12-14

Another such verse puts it this way:

“Watch out! Don’t do your good deeds publicly, to be admired by others, for you will lose the reward from your Father in heaven.” Matthew 6:1

When you are doing something, what is in your heart? To bring glory to yourself, or to God?

“So if you eat or drink or whatever you do, do everything to honor God.”                      1 Corinthians 10:31 (Emphasis added)

Some of you may know, that I love to sing, and grew up singing specials in church.

As I’ve gotten older, I started singing more, and the more I sang the more compliments I got. Add to that trying to “bust out” of the shell people put my in of who they thought I was and trying to be my own person, I started singing more unconventional (Christian hip-hop) songs at church.

Well, last summer, I realized that my singing was slowly becoming less and less about him, and more and more about me.

So, I took the summer off and fasted singing in front of crowds. And you know what? Since that time, I experience and encounter Christ in deeper, more intimate ways during worship.

Challenge yourself today, and ask yourself what the motives behind whatever you’re doing are. Are they for personal glory, or Christ’s glory?

Finally, as with the last two parts of the series, here are a couple of my favorite modest Autumnal outfits! The olive t-shirt dress is from Kosher Casual-an adorable online shop full of gorgeous and affordable modest clothing all the way from The Holy Land of Israel! (An Added Bonus!) The rest of the clothes are from various stores such as Walmart and Giant Tiger!

I don’t know about you, but I LOVE Autumn! I get to start wearing a darker lipstick three-quarter sleeve shirts (and Dresses)! Orange (it feels strange wearing orange toned clothes any other time of the year!)

And Don’t forget about our Giveaway of two books-donated by Pure Freedom Ministries– and a special made, one-of-a-kind- notebook designed by yours truly! Keep an eye out because the giveaway is coming up right around the corner! Keep an eye out for how to enter!





7 thoughts on “The Heart of Modesty: Modesty in Action

  1. jesusm0ments says:

    When I was in 8th grade, I participated in a youth conference as a “model” for modest dress for young ladies. At the time, I thought it was kind of silly because I was… well… 14 haha. Now that I am older and have matured since, I see women the same age as me dressing… not so modestly. I cringe at the thought because I saw one woman post her disgust at a guy who decided to himself “out there” if you know what I mean. No? Well he sent some pictures… By no means do I think she was asking for it but that’s what I would expect if I were to post pictures of myself in a bikini as my profile picture and I had the body this girl has. It’s one thing to post as a general photo. Maybe you’re proud of your accomplishments with weight loss and you share with your friends. Cool! But as a profile picture for the world to see… maybe not. We women need to guard ourselves because there are people that will take advantage of the lack of modesty that we share, some in more obvious ways.


    • Kristen says:

      While it may not have been good of your friend to pot a picture like that, Modesty in Actions goes the same way for guys! They need to be modest in how they act and what they do, just the same as women. I wouldn’t blame your friend for what that guy did. He is responsible for his actions-just as we all are! Now, I’m no fan of bikinis, and women certainly need to guard themselves more than men on average, but men need to be held accountable for their actions just as we do!

      Liked by 1 person

      • jesusm0ments says:

        I definitely agree! (by the way, she isn’t a friend. I saw the post as we have mutual friends and it was a public post) I just love how these current events tied into what you wrote. I think there has been a lack of shame in humanity lately. Yes, we should be able to look at a body as God’s work but since it’s been sexualized, naturally, we all need to guard ourselves.



Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s