What does Real Love Look Like?

What does Real Love Look Like-

“We just have to show them love. That’s all we’re supposed to do…love one another.” 

That’s all I seem to see or hear anymore. The “Love Gospel” seems to be a very popular topic to be praught in churches as of late. 

And, I mean, why not? After all, our countries are so broken up and everyone seems to be fighting each other… People just need to love each other… right?

Yes, the Bible does say that the greatest commandment is to “Love your neighbor as your self.” 

However, I think…no…wait… I know that the “cotton candy, sugar coated, squishy-feely” kind of love that is so often talked about isn’t the kind of love that the Bible talks about.

“What do you mean, Kristen? Love is…love…”

Just stay with me and let me explain.

Culture has taught us so much that to reprimand someone for their wrong behavior isn’t love, instead it’s intolerance. That just because it’s wrong for you, doesn’t make it wrong for me. Society has told us that to really love someone is to accept everything they do… The worst part? This is something that even many churches are buying into.

But this is completely opposite of what the Bible says;

“Preach the word of God. Be prepared, whether the time is favorable or not. Patiently correct, rebuke, and encourage your people with good teaching.”                  2 Timothy 4:2

“Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path…” Galatians 6:1

Yes, it does say that we are to correct each other with gentleness, but we are to correct each other nonetheless.

Why do you think we have the Bible? To read stories of many victories to feel good? 

On the contrary.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.” 2 Timothy 3:16 (Emphasis Added)

For so long, we have heard that to reprimand is to hate. And even worse, we have accepted it. 

Rather than going to the Bible to find out what it says, we’ve allowed what culture and society have said seep into our churches and into our hearts and accepted it as truth…despite the fact that it is so, obviously not the truth.

Here’s a hard pill to swallow straight from the Bible:

To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction.” Proverbs 12:1 (Emphasis Added)

Another Translation puts the same verse this way;

Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” (Emphasis Added)

Without correction, we are ignorant and don’t actually know the truth about anything.

Correction is necessary for physical, mental and spiritual growth.

Without correction quote

Society is full of people who hate being corrected. When they are, they become angry and lash out. Unfortunately, these last couple of years, we are seeing this occur more and more.

Whether it’s politics, economics, major league sports (and/or their players), there are so many groups of people lashing out in anger-including in the church.

I think that it’s time that Christians need to really dig deep and relearn what real love is and what exactly it’s supposed to look like.


Until Next Week!


6 thoughts on “What does Real Love Look Like?

    • Kristen says:

      When it comes to correcting others, we have to rely on God to provide the words. It’s also so important that we correct people with a heart of love–this is why we should pray and ask God if it’s our place to correct someone’s sin-or if he has someone better to do it. The last thing a person wants is to correct someone with a “I told you so” attitude, because that isn’t love-that’s arrogance. Correcting people with a heart of arrogance just makes things worse, not better! Always examine your motives, and if you truly believe God is leading you to be the one to correct someone, ask him to provide you the right words to say!


  1. The Barefoot Warrior says:

    This is wonderful! So often, speaking the truth is misconstrued with hate speaking. The problem though, is that there are those who do speak with hatred toward sin. And then, as Christians, when call out sin, we are often lumped in with hate speakers. Wouldn’t it be great if we really could express love to the sinner whilst hating the sin? Oh, that we could practice this kind of
    love! It is something I strive for as a Barefoot Warrior! Thank you for your bold, true words! I look forward to next week’s post! ❤


    • Kristen says:

      Yup! The gospel isn’t a popular thing! But, we are told so many times in the new testament that that is how it would be. People don’t like being told that they’re wrong-they’d rather be “happy” in sin rather than at peace in the light of the truth! Happiness is a fleeting emotion, peace and joy are what are truly lasting! We can only do as Christ calls and leads us to do and leave it u to his spirit to be the one to convict hearts and minds!


  2. malinjus says:

    YES. YES. YES! The church needs to wake up to the deceit of the “love gospel”. My church body just fired a pastor willing to preach the Gospel (and ALL of scripture) boldly and with conviction. It was amazing! But the church leadership decided it didn’t want to hear ALL of it…I am so sad. BUT, I am also excited, knowing that God is busy doing something! And reading this post encouraged me that He IS working!


    • Kristen says:

      Just for clarification, they fired him because he was willing to preach the whole gospel or wasn’t willing to preach it? A Little confused so I thought I’d ask. Thinking maybe a typo? 🙂
      I’m so glad that you were encouraged by this! And stay tuned, because in the next few months, there are going to be some God-directed changes to this ministry and it’s going to be AWESOME! 😉



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